Burnout Recovery for Gen Z: What Helped Me Stop Pretending to Be Okay

What does pretending to be okay really feel like?

It feels like answering “I’m fine!” while your eyes twitch from screen fatigue . Like checking off tasks and thinking that means you're functional. Like wondering if crying in the bathroom at lunch counts as a mental health break .

If you’ve felt this? You’re not broken. You might just be burned out. And pretending you're okay only makes it worse .This post is part of my burnout recovery for Gen Z — for those who are tired, pretending, and finally ready to heal on their own terms.

What are the early signs of burnout (before you crash)?

Short answer: When you feel constantly tired, emotionally flat, and weirdly disconnected from your own joy .

According to the World Health Organization, burnout is defined as a syndrome resulting from chronic workplace stress that hasn’t been successfully managed.

But here’s the kicker: it’s not just about work anymore — it’s emotional exhaustion, sky-high self-pressure, and yes, even stress from unread group chats.

Signs of emotional exhaustion can include:

• Dreading your day before it starts

• Avoiding messages (even from people you love)

• Numbness or zoning out

• Irritability over tiny things (like someone chewing too loud)

Burnout doesn’t always explode. Sometimes, it melts you slowly. Like...room-temp ice cream you forgot in the sun .

The day I cracked (quietly and caffeinated)

A few months ago, I sat on the bus after work with headphones in — but no music playing. I just didn’t want the world in my ears.

At work, I had been “on.” Laughing, emailing, small-talking, emoji-reacting . But inside, I was one Slack ping away from disappearing into a Pinterest board titled “Cabins Alone Forever.”

That night I googled, “How do I know if I’m burned out or just dramatic?” Spoiler: it’s not dramatic if your soul feels like a sock .

What helped me with emotional exhaustion (without quitting my job)?

I didn’t go to Bali . I didn’t delete my entire life (though I did delete TikTok for 2 days and genuinely panicked like I lost Wi-Fi in the apocalypse). I just started doing very small, low-energy, high-empathy things. Here’s my free self-care checklist that I made during that week:

🧘‍♀️ Checklist: Tiny acts of softness when you’re pretending too hard

Action	Why it matters
Put phone on airplane mode for 10 mins	Silence becomes safety, not punishment 📴
Sit in sunlight (like a houseplant)	Restores nervous system gently ☀️
Write down 1 thing you don’t care about today	Permission to stop pretending to care
Say “not today” to one task	Builds a boundary muscle
Drink water slowly while doing nothing else	Let your body feel acknowledged

➡️ Download this checklist as a printable here

You can also try other helpful, research-backed micro-habits from the Greater Good Science Center — they’re not woo-woo, they’re science-y and wholesome.

But what if resting feels guilty?

Welcome to the club.If you grew up in hustle culture, capitalism probably convinced you that rest is earned — not innate. That’s a lie.

That guilty feeling when you pause? Yeah, it’s not your fault.When you’re raised to hustle, even sipping tea without multitasking can feel like rebellion.

But rest isn’t lazy. It’s survival — with a blanket and maybe a candle.

Rest is resistance. Joy is productivity.Burn that into your brain, gently. 🔥🧠

How can Gen Z stop pretending and actually recover?

• Be awkwardly honest: You don’t have to overshare. Just start with “I’m not totally okay lately.” That’s enough .

• Romanticize your soft habits: Light a candle . Watch something stupid and comforting . Make a snack with full ceremony .

• Build a micro-routine: One small habit in the morning or night that says, “I exist for myself too.”

What if you're scared to be seen as weak?

Real talk: Pretending to be okay is more exhausting than actually being not okay .

The bravest thing I did was text a friend: “I’m tired of being the strong one.” And guess what? She replied, “Same.” That moment cracked something open — like the first Dorito in a brand-new bag .

When we stop pretending, we make space for connection. And connection heals.

Final thoughts (from one soft mess to another)

If you’re burned out, pretending won’t save you — but kindness might .

Not grand kindness. Just small ones:

• A quiet moment

• A glass of water

• A playlist that understands

You don’t need to prove your pain to deserve healing.

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